Anonymous asked: Hey there. I am a bisexual girl. I've only had relationships with boys, but there is a girl at my school that I'm really into. We are very close friends and I am trying to figure out if she feels more for me than just friendship. During one instance, when I was passing notes with a boy she knew I liked during class she said 'stop passing notes to him' and proceeded to start passing notes to me. She's been telling me that she's been missing me a lot lately and also has mentioned that she thinks people sense something between us that drives them away from hanging out with us when we are together. I can't tell if she views me as a really good friend or something more. I want to tell her about my feelings.
What would you do? What should I do?
From what you’ve told me, it seems that she might be open to something more than what you two share now. I believe if you feel you can really be yourself and be happy with her, you should tell her. Start gentle, mention how you really feel comfortable and happy when you’re with her. From that, gauge her reaction and decide whether you should continue or not. Softly proceed until you feel you can straightforwardly tell her that you like her more than a friend, that you would like to pursue something more with her. Be direct. Don’t send cryptic messages because that usually strays and misinterprestation happens: someone will get hurt more easily. Keep in mind that you don’t want to force her or anything, no obligations. Maybe she’s shy and doesn’t know how to approach this at all with you, or maybe she’s not ready to be explicitly with you, etc. But always know that there is a possibility that she doesn’t want to try anything more with you than friendship. However, just because she might not want to go further doesn’t mean your friendship should end just there. If you believe your connection is strong, then this shouldn’t end anything. She will appreciate that you’ve shared with her that regardless the situation.
I’ll be sending you all positive energies!
Thank you for sharing a lovely part of your life.